CHAPTER TWO
Who's in Charge Here? Or, Parental
Pressures
Letters from anxious students are
expected, but occasionally I get correspondence from anxious
parents. Consider this letter from a father concerned about
his daughter's premedical progress:
Dear Dr. Brown:
Sorry to bother you, but I need the favor
of your advice.My daughter is a premed in her junior year at
Cornell University. She made the very mistakes in her first
two undergraduate years that you have advised to avoid inure
book. She was brilliant in her high school studies even
though she began school in this country in the 8th grade(we
immigrated from India about 8 years ago). She got accepted
at Cornell University as an Early Decision student in 1977.
At Cornell she took a chemistry major. She thought this
would help her to get admitted to medical school.This
involved taking higher chemistry, math and physics courses.
She got C in chemistry, C+ in physics and B in math. Her
grades in non-science subjects are B+. Her grades in biology
average B. In her junior year she changed her major from
chemistry to micro-biology and she did better academically
last semester. She wants to repeat some courses to raise her
GPA but she is being advised that,after completing higher
science courses, she should not retake lower courses
(although the lower courses meet the requirements of medical
college and her new major). We shall appreciate your advice
and guidance in the matter as we are totally ignorant of the
system in this country. We do not mind if she spends an
extra year repeating her courses.
Raj Mulati
Although I can appreciate this
father's concern I somehow wonder why this letter didn't
come from his daughter. I am always suspicious of queries
that come not from the premedical students themselves but
from family members or friends. I ask myself, what is
the source of this person's desire to study medicine? Is she
self-directed or other-directed? Is she pursuing a
premedical program because she wants to be a physician or
just to please her parents? Admissions committees ask the
same questions. Studies show that attrition among medical
students has more to do with motivation than any other
single factor. If a person genuinely wants to become a
physician the medical school curriculum is a minor obstacle.
The major obstacle is getting into medical school in the
first place. Academically, medical students are sound. But
if a physician parent is pressuring a son or daughter to
follow in the same footsteps, or a parent wants a physician
in the family, and that student would rather be sailing,
then flunking out is a real possibility. My medical school
classmates were not geniuses; they were hard workers.
Medical school is long hours, tedious work, and requires a
high degree of personal sacrifice. With proper motivation it
can also be highly rewarding and a lot of fun.